How to be Smart in Your Marriage Daily
Relationships and marriages are work in ways we never imagined and they challenge us to look at our own foibles, fears, and personal struggles deep within. I have seen people push through intense pain and disappointment in their marriage, yet come out the other end to find their relationship on a whole new level. So whether you have been married 1 year, 10 years, 20 years, or even divorced with a strong faith in the next chapter in your life, take a look at How to be Smart in Your Marriage Daily:
1. Listen better
I mean really listen – I call this “listening with attention.” Think about how your body language looks like when you are listening to your boss at work, a small child, or if you were on on a first date. You are engaged, making eye contact, not distracted. You are showing the person on the other end: What you are saying is important to me. This is how you should be listening to your partner when he speaks to you. Show him that you care.
2. Be more patient
He isn’t you and he never will be. Just as your job is to understand you, it sure would help if you took the time to understand his own process when it comes to life, connection, intimacy, etc. The more you understand him, the easier it will be to accept his different wiring.
3. Learn to let things go
Nope. He’s not perfect and neither are you. We all will make mistakes in any relationship and it’s key to learn how to pick your battles. Be judicious and bring up matters only when it’s truly worth it.
4. Be more present at home
With social media, the internet, TV, and mobile gadgets we now live in an age where folks are more disconnected than ever. When the day ends, are you still plugged into your phone, TV, computer, etc. where you are unable to connect with your loved ones? You know your part when it comes to this matter so own it and take the time to connect with your spouse without distractions.
5. Make focusing on YOUR part a top priority
Why? Because the only person you have the power to change and be accountable for is you. The more you focus on your partner’s actions, the less you are able to react to a situation in a smart, mature way. When you and your husband get locked into the you did this and you did that dance, then you both might as well jump into a pool of mud and start flinging wet dirt at each other. In other words, the blame dance will only make things go downhill and then some.
So for the sake of the relationship, be smart and practice the above 5 tips daily.