The Shoulds

I should have cleaned up the house today.

I should have spent less time this week watching mindless television with my husband.

Dammit, I should have exercised this morning because then my brain would have worked better and then I definitely would have cleaned up the house which I really should have.

I should have have woken up earlier and then I would have cleaned the house.

I should have been smarter about it.

I should have planned better for it.

I should, I should, I should, I should, should should should should, could could, would would, blah blah blah blah blaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh…

Is this you?

Do you allow yourself to get sucked up by The Shoulds just like a little, bottom of the barrel sea fish that gets violently swallowed by a terrorizing shark?

If the answer is yes, then do yourself a favor:  Knock it off….NOW.

Seriously people, you need to cleanse yourself of The Shoulds because THEY DO NOTHING FOR YOU except keep you from actually living your life.  Think of some sadistic, abusive “thing”  living in your house rent free….clearly, that would be wrong – beyond.  Well my friends…so are The Shoulds.

So maybe this new year is the year to just dump those parasite, blood sucking shoulds.

P.S. – If you really want to take my advice to a whole “therapy-esque” level, then ask yourself this:   Who in your family passed The Shoulds down to lucky you?  Because just like criticism is a learned behavior, so are The Shoulds.

Ucchhh…just get rid of them already.


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4 comments on “The Shoulds

  1. Tim Jordan on said:

    You know who Louise Hay is?
    She says should is the most damaging word in our language.

    I agree with you, let this be the year of could instead of should.

  2. So great – so true!

  3. and once again… you nailed me to a T. I have a baaaad case of “the shoulds”. On the upside, this is yet another thing I AM IN CONTROL OF. For my own sake, AGAIN – I AM IN CONTROL OF “the shoulds” in my life. I think I can, I think I can, I think I can, I KNOW I CAN. Carin, you’re the best! Thank YOU!

  4. Carin Goldstein on said:

    Brook: We ALL DO!!! ;) As always, thanks for your awesome comments…

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