Let’s cut to the chase:  Is “the ring” one of the most spectacular objects I’ve ever seen?   In the words of Ms. Whitney Houston: “Heeeeeell to the YES!”  Without a doubt – YES.  In fact I think “The 7 wonders of the world” has now become EIGHT due to that piece of jewelry.  So with 3 snaps in the air I say: Go on and work that rock, Miss Kim!

But for now let’s get down to some brass tacks here:

Everyone and their mother is talking about the ring, the ring, the ring, the ring, yadda, yadda, yadda…In fact, one of the relationship websites which I contribute for asked for my input about the following:

“Hi Carin… I’m writing a piece today about Kim Kardashian…Kim knew what she wanted–she’s 30, wants to get married, wants kids (the whole biological clock thing), and didn’t waste much time with other guys (Miles Austin, Gabriel Aubry, etc.) when she knew it wasn’t going to work out. I think her method was smart… What do you think, in terms of marriage and happiness later in life? Or just in terms of the dating method, if you’d rather? Did she do a good job figuring out what she wanted and getting engaged in just 6 mos? Or was that the wrong strategy? A little bit of input would be great!”

To which I replied:

“I think there’s something to be said about going for what you want in life and being very specific about that, but getting engaged and choosing someone to spend the rest of your life with (let alone start a family with), is much more complicated than let’s say…a new career move.  Should Kim get kudos for going after what she wants (i.e.: marriage, family, etc.)? Absolutely.  But the question still remains, is she ultimately choosing the right guy to be her “partner” through thick and thin?  The national divorce rate is still WELL over 50%, which means that Kim needs to be honest with herself: Is Kris mature enough to be in an intimate,  ADULT (the brain isn’t fully formed at until age 25, hence Kris at age 26 is only an adult “newby”) relationship and is he able to withstand the curve balls of marriage, family, and life?”

So, what’s my message to you??  Well, personally I think that the big honkin’ rock on Kim’s deliciously manicured finger is TO DIE FOR, but for all of you women out there thinking: “O-M-G! (biiiiiiiitch),” for your own sake, don’t go there.  There’s simply no reason to and here’s why:  Her future is not about the ring, the wedding, and whatever else her fiancé’s bank account can afford.  Their future remains to be seen , and in all honesty, I do wish them well (I don’t know Kim personally, but I think she seems really sweet). This engagement happened in the blink of an eye, and leave it to today’s tabloids to perpetuate our society’s f*****d up values: only focusing on how things look on the outside and in the moment.

Well, Kim, I do applaud you for changing the kind of guy you were dating in the past, and as much as Kris’s values may mirror yours, PU-LEEEEZ WAIT to have a child until the two of you have experienced the reality of life as a couple. THAT will be like putting money in the bank as far as your marriage’s emotional wealth.

I can’t predict your future Kim, but I do think that my advice is really SMART.

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