Yes, a lot of printed words today and no video…here’s why:

We’re slowly beginning to change it up here at BTSW where some of my posts will be in written form (not just only videos) for 2 reasons:

1)      For some of you, READING (as opposed to WATCHING and LISTENING) is your optimum way of processing information.  Hence, I want the “reading” folks out there to easily soak in my “words of wisdom.”

2)      Over the next few months, we’re going to diversify A LOT of things here on the site, and mixing up the presentation style is just the beginning…

Btw, if YOU have an opinion about the above, by all means WRITE ME! I WANT TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT TO SEE HERE AND HOW!!  Likes, dislikes, whatever your thoughts are…write me.

ANY-HOO! Let’s talk about your relationship:

Feelings, feelings, feelings…we have them every day, all the time, good and bad with our partner…right? RIGHT!

That said, read this OUT LOUD:

Just because you have a FEELING, doesn’t mean you have to ACT on it.

Read it again.  I mean it…

(this is me waiting for you to read it…)

(still waiting…do it already)

EXACTLY what I wrote above, is what I MEAN:  Just because you feel like SCREAMING at the guy behind you in line at the movie theater (yes, he’s openly expressed how long it’s taking you to choose between the M&Ms vs. the Jr. Mints) doesn’t mean that you actually turn around and scream at him.  That’s when you think to yourself:  Okay, “Self”… he’s a total douche bag piece of sh*t and I’m going to just breath and pretend that I don’t hear him saying, “It doesn’t matter Lady…they’ll both end up sticking to you in the same place” and then I’m going to just walk far far farrrrr away…and I’m going to keep breathing until my dragon fire raging anger has subsided.  Yes.  I will do that, and then I will see how I feel.

And the same applies in your MARRIAGE…

When you come home to find your husband buried in his newspaper while he sits in the middle of a heaping pile/sea of toys, broken pieces of animal crackers, sand all over the couch from the kids’ shoes, and your 5 year old’s dirty underwear slapped in the middle of the house entry way, don’t tell me you’re not FEELING like you want to throw your hands up and howl at your husband:

O-KAYYY (mother f****rrr!!!) I   AM   D-O-N-E!!!

But you don’t.

No, my dear…you don’t.  You’re experiencing a FEELING which does not mean that you must ACT on it right then and there.

Take a deep breath, put the groceries away, and let the feelings simmer down. Only THEN are you in a grounded place to figure out what you need to act on and how to appropriately communicate it.

So until next Tuesday, take a beat….and BE SMART.

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